Becoming a New Grandma

I am going to be a grandmother for the first time! When my daughter told the good news, I cried tears of joy. It really wasn’t unexpected, but it was so exciting. But, the scary part is that I have a lot to learn about becoming a new grandma.

Thinking back on my daughters’ births, I wanted my mother to be there, especially with my first baby. She knew everything, I thought. When my babies cried until the wee hours of the morning, she was there to soothe them. As for my husband, he was happy to have help, but he wanted to care for his baby.

There is a delicate balance. Fathers are more hands on when it comes to their baby’s care. Even when their wife is nursing, some dads feel left out. When I go to visit my daughter and son-in-law, I need to keep this in mind.

New Gradma Quote

And let’s not forget the in-laws. Thankfully, my son-in-law has a very good relationship with them. They deserve to enjoy their moments, especially since they are new grandparents too.

Rules for New Grandmas

  • Don’t say anything negative about the name Mom and Dad have chosen
  • Ask Mom and Dad before doing anything with baby, even if it’s a family tradition from hundreds of years back
  • Step back when they are having parent moments. Privacy is a fundamental need for new parents.
  • Don’t expect to be in the delivery room. Remember if you are invited, it’s a privilege.
  • Money may be the best gifts at first, especially when baby is just born
  • No drama – when planning the baby shower, the christening, etc.
  • Give advice only when asked
  • Go ahead and spoil them, but wait until they’re toddlers and for the rest of their lives!

Any more advice for new grandmas?

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Living in the Tampa Bay area, I'm lucky enough to see beautiful sunsets almost every day. Although life can be difficult at times, focusing on the positive and being with my family is what gets me through.

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  1. Oh Connie, congratulations to you and the entire family 🙂 What fantastic news. I look forward to hearing more about the newest little one coming soon.
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  2. CONGRATS! What great news!

  3. ellen

    Congratulations! You’re gonna do great!

  4. Congratulations!!! This is exciting news. You have great tips here too.
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  5. This post made me miss my dad’s mom. She was a lovely woman. Also, I think you are going to be a great grandma. 🙂
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  6. There are some good tips here for grandparents to be!
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  7. What a great list!
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