Grieving the Loss of Aunt Barbie

I am grieving the loss of my Aunt Barbie, who passed on Tuesday, April 9th. I began mourning her spirit slipping away months before. But, knowing that death is coming doesn’t make it any easier.

grieving the lossFor a long time, she was dealing with dementia and either didn’t make sense when she spoke or didn’t speak at all. She was a shell of herself. With kidney disease destroying her body, her organs were shutting down and her mental capacity was diminished.

Being there the day she passed was a blessing, as strange as that may sound to some of you. From my Facebook Timeline I wrote, “While spending most of the day with her, we covered her with kisses and tears, told her it was OK to let go. She blessed us by suddenly turning her head and opening her eyes wide twice as she saw those who passed before her and angels welcoming her.” She actually waited about an hour to pass, until my Mom, Uncle and I left.

As distraught as I am, there are many happy memories that help me lessen the grieving of my Aunt. I was very close to her. Everyone who met her and knew her used the term, “sweet” to describe her. Even though she had a difficult life, you wouldn’t know it. Her smile, her love of people, especially children made her endearing. Wherever she went, she would make a friend and put their needs above her own.

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She had fears and was shy, but she put herself out there. I remember her joining a church full of strangers. Within weeks, she had many friends and joined groups to help others. Her laughter was contagious. Her finances were low, but she found a way to make donations and buy gifts. She was special, caring and had a kind soul.

Aunt Barbie, I grieve your loss, but I will always remember you. You have touched so many lives. Your guidance and unconditional love gives me something to strive for.

Have you lost a loved one? How did you grieve their loss?

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Connie Roberts

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Living in the Tampa Bay area, I'm lucky enough to see beautiful sunsets almost every day. Although life can be difficult at times, focusing on the positive and being with my family is what gets me through.

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Comments

  1. I am so sorry Connie for your loss, it truly sounds as if she was a very special lady. To love and be loved is what life is about and from your writing she had an abundance of both.

    Thoughts to you and to your family… *hugs*

  2. I’m sorry to hear about this Connie. I understand what you mean about the blessing of being there though. As tough as it is to deal with, I’d have hated myself if I hadn’t been there when my dad passed. I wish you peace at this time.
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    • I appreciate your caring words, Mitch. I feel the same way about being present while my aunt passed. There were so many times when it might have happened and I wasn’t there.

  3. Feeling badly for you and your family . I send you sincere condolences Connie
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  4. Sorry about the loss of your Aunty Connie, may her soul rest in eternal peace.
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  5. I’m so sorry about your loss. She sounds like an amazing person.
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  6. I’m so sorry for your loss, Connie.
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