When I felt like I was pretty much falling apart at the seams my family came together. Just two weeks ago, my mother had a brain tumor removed. At the age of 83. She had dizzy spells and was falling. Then she had headaches on the top of her head and in the back of her head. She knew something was wrong. Finally, her primary doctor listened to her and ordered an MRI which showed a small mass in her brain.
Thinking back to the time when my mother had breast cancer, I was scared that the cancer had returned and metastasized. I was too frightened to even speak those words, so I kept them to myself. After being told by her family doctor that because of her age she wouldn’t require surgery I was doubtful, but gave her the good news. Then being told by her neurosurgeon that she did need surgery, I couldn’t bear the thought. Seeing my mother return to that forgetful and confused state when she was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was alarmed. My family came together to help me cope emotionally and to help arrange things.
My loving daughter, Alicia took time off from work and flew in from Kansas to stay with my mother. She was the glue that kept me together. Although she was dealing with a lot of emotions too, she was able to think rationally and help make decisions. When I clashed with my mother, she took over. Because of her ability to share our concerns about my mother without my mom feeling like she was giving up her independence we set up 24 hour care when she came home from the hospital. Now 4 hours of care are continuing each day.
Alicia helped by going shopping, running errands and cooking. We all sat together sharing stories, watching TV and laughing. She even showed me some tricks for using my Samsung Galaxy S3 and took some photos with it. We played with it during the long surgery wait to keep our mind off things and it was invaluable in helping to stay in touch with everyone. My cousins listened to me vent and offered their advice when I asked for it. My uncle may be coming to stay with my mother soon. Phone calls, Get Well cards and text messages helped us all feel loved and cared for. When there’s a crisis, there’s nothing like the love and concern of family.
Best of all, my mom is recovering quickly. The tumor is benign! She’s a little weak, but talking up a storm. And is worried about her appearance. So I’m shopping for head covers because she doesn’t think she looks good in this scarf!
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