The Real Meaning of Valentine’s Day

My husband and I are not romantics, but we know the true meaning of love and of Valentine’s Day. Instead of whispering sweet nothings, we stand by each other, instead of giving jewelry, we compromise, and instead of acting like cupid, we remain committed to each other.

Stand By Each Other

I hear about couples breaking up or getting divorced when something terrible happens. It could be a tragedy such a death, or a real difficulty like bankruptcy. Often stress is just too overwhelming. I’ve learned that when we face problems, Shawn and I get closer. And we’ve had our share of struggles. It doesn’t make the pain go away, but knowing that we’ll always stand by each other, makes it easier to cope. It’s like having a mini support group.


Compromise is one of the most difficult things to do when you are strong willed, which I am, often to my disadvantage. When it comes to my marriage though, I find it easier to go half-way or even give in because I trust my husband. Plus I know that he will do the same for me when the time comes.


For me this is the most important thing we have going for us in our relationship. When we took our wedding vows, we meant them. We are loyal to each other in every sense of the word. I don’t care if it sounds old fashioned that I ask Shawn before I agree to do something like taking a job, or traveling for a conference. He does the same for me. This helps us maintain our trust and keep the commitment we have growing stronger.

Valentine's Day Flowers

I am not judging anyone in a relationship with my words. Everyone has different beliefs about love, but as long as you and your partner agrees upon them, that’s the key. I’ve also been divorced and have been through breakups of serious relationships. They weren’t meant to be. There wasn’t real love between us.

So how are we celebrating Valentine’s Day today? Shawn did get me and our daughter Sammi flowers. He also got me a lovely card and some chocolate. We wished each other a Happy Valentine’s Day. And now we’re both back to our normal routine. I’m confident that he’ll be home tonight, that he’ll be at the big school meeting this Thursday and that he’ll something kind for me each day.

And yes, we do have our romantic times. We hold hands, go out for dinner once in a while, etc. but to me, he’s most romantic when he’s being the husband I married. The one I am committed to for the rest of my life.

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Connie Roberts

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Living in the Tampa Bay area, I'm lucky enough to see beautiful sunsets almost every day. Although life can be difficult at times, focusing on the positive and being with my family is what gets me through.

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  1. Love it! It’s totally true. I’m always glad when it’s Feb 15. Let’s move on to St. Patty’s Day or Easter 🙂

  2. happy valentine’s day! you are truly blessed

    • Connie Roberts

      Thank Linda. I count my husband as one of my blessings every day. Believe me we have our down days, but today I focused on how fantastic he is because he deserves it!

  3. Aww! This is so cute! I love to read posts where someone is actually happy with their life/significant other instead of complaining about them. I believe it’s important to acknowledge the day, but not make a big deal about it. You seem to have found that happy medium.

  4. Great advice that I totally agree with!

  5. I agree. To me Valentine’s Day has it meaning but for the most part is a money racket. Dont get me wrong Im a softy for the flowers, etc but my hubby knows its not a requirement to show me how much he loves me on just that 1 day that he better show it in a non $ spending way all 365 of the year 😉

  6. Great post Connie. I agree 100%!

  7. I’m not a grand gesture girl myself. Every day acts show love so much more.

  8. So sweet and true! We have Valentine’s all year long! We do give gifts on the actual day but they are so small it is crazy to even call them gifts. LOL! Like, he gave me a bag of M & Ms and I gave him a bag of mini York peppermint patties. 🙂

  9. My fiance surprised me with my favourite flowers on Vday which was so sweet of him.

  10. Divorce is far to common. My husband and I have both been married once before. We both agree that we did not try hard and give our first marriages 100%. Compromise is key. But I think compromise is learned with age. In my 20’s I had no idea what compromise was about.

    Great article!

  11. You’re absolutely right. Your post moved me to tears. I look at love, marriage and commitment the same way. When our son died, many people commented that they were impressed that our marriage survived. To us, that was strange. We needed each other. We helped, comforted and listened to each other. If we hadn’t had each other during that dark tragedy, I don’t know that either one of us would have made it out alive. We take our marriage very seriously. The vows we made to one another were sincere.


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