Connecting Is The Easy Road To Blogging

I first began blogging when I was diagnosed with a chronic illness that turned my life upside down, well, if you consider Y360 (the old Yahoo “blogs”) blogging. I wrote about my fear, my anger and shared my positive outlook on my good days too. I visited other blogs and commented, but it was just for the sake of recognizing their feelings, their kindness, their prayers for me, without expecting anything in return.

Then I entered the “real” blogging arena, the place where I bought a domain name, got a self-hosted wordpress blog and learned about paid posts, SEO and product reviews. Dollar signs were my mantra.

I met Murray Newlands @murraynewlands about 8 months ago online when he asked if I wanted to be interviewed for his blog.  A few weeks after my interview was posted, I got an email from him letting me know about a contest he was running with the winner getting a ticket to Affiliate Summit East 09. I ignored the email, thinking I’d never win and didn’t want to be humiliated. Murray didn’t give up though. He emailed me again and said that I should give it a try, what was the worst that could happen?

Long story short, I won the tickets and went to my first conference. I was scared and very shy, but Murray took me under his wings and taught me about connecting. He introduced me to people who I had something in common with, with people that I could help, with famous people like Chris Brogran @chrisbrogan who I could learn from, etc.  He explained that connecting with others is one of the best ways to grow your blog. Don’t put money before people.

murray and me

Ever since then, I’ve been reaching out more to bloggers online. I’m connecting on Twitter, commenting on new blogs, connecting bloggers who can be assets to one another. I do a lot of my connecting behind the scenes. I don’t want anything in return. At IzeaFest, my goal was to meet new people and make them feel at ease. I didn’t push my business card at them. Instead I listened and talked less. I asked questions and learned more.

More offers and opportunities have been coming my way recently though. Is it karma or is it due to my reaching out to others? It doesn’t matter, because this lesson I’ve learned is that important to me that I’ll continue it even if nothing comes my way.

Just the other day, I saw Chris Brogan at the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration where he was speaking.  I had the opportunity to sit with him at breakfast. I said hello and he remembered me. I was in shock, but it was true. We had a fun conversation and when he had to leave unexpectedly, he tweeted to say sorry. Chris: real and genuine.

I watched him during the day. He didn’t just sit there, high and mighty. He talked with people, laughed with them, took photos with them and listened to them…the most important key to connecting. I saw him sitting with some of the Disney Cast Members chatting up a storm during a break. He even asked a question of another speaker, Maxine Clark, Founder of Build A Bear, with awe in his voice.

He talked about the importance of connecting and that little voice inside my head (the one I don’t listen to often enough) told me that I was on the right path.

This is a post for the contest Win A Free SOBCon Weekend #SOBCon2010. You can enter too. “Write a blog post about a person (or people) online who has (or have) made a difference in your life. Celebrate how they have made your life easier, better, smarter, more productive, more meaningful.”

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Living in the Tampa Bay area, I'm lucky enough to see beautiful sunsets almost every day. Although life can be difficult at times, focusing on the positive and being with my family is what gets me through.

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  1. It’s easy to be real: Step 1.) Care about people. Step 2.) See step 2.

    You’re real people, Connie. So, between the two of us, we’ve got “being real” covered, don’t we?

    I’m glad you let me sit with you a bit. I look forward to connecting more soon.
    .-= Chris Brogan…´s last blog ..What Will We Do With Influencers =-.

  2. Good for you. Networking is all about getting out there, and being sincere. I bet you rock at it 🙂

  3. What a great story you shared about Chris Brogan and Murray Newlands. Fear of rejection can sometimes prevent us from connecting with others online. We think our opinions are of no consequence. We are too ordinary. Nobody will listen. And so we keep ourselves to the same old circle of friends.

    Ah, the things we sometimes do to shortchange ourselves online.

    It’s great you’ve met Chris Brogan who has mastered the art of genuinely connecting with people. I’m a fan, too.
    .-= jan geronimo´s last blog ..When a Question Is the Answer =-.

  4. I admire your moxy! keep connecting and great story you have shared with us!
    .-= Linda´s last blog ..Global Warming Is Dish Also Served Cold =-.

  5. That’s great, Connie. I think bloggers often lose sight of the connection within the blogging community. I hope to attend a conference soon. I’d love to meet those I connect with.
    .-= Creative Junkie´s last blog ..I want to go everwhere with everyone =-.

  6. Connecting with others has been just amazing for me, too, Connie! The early days of the forum where I met you were just awesome! I don’t go there enough anymore to really know if there are some good connections happening. And being part of Lynn’s forum has totally rocked! Two of the biggest things for me have been, connections-wise, have been Twitter and the three events I have attended.

    This is a wonderful post, Connie, all about your journey, and I’m sorry you didn’t win.
    .-= Lisa Marie Mary´s last blog ..Glee – The Road to Sectionals, Disc 4 =-.

  7. That is so cool! I LOVE LOVE LOVE meeting people in real life whose blogs (or twitter) I follow because it just seems to cut out the small talk and jump into friendship.

    LOVE it.

  8. Connie, even having never met you I know that you’re genuine. I felt a real connection through our tweets and emails. We may live 1500 miles apart, but your one of my best online friends. It’s great that you’re attending so many conferences, and I hope to meet you in person someday. I agree that people like Murray and Chris are people-people – it’s easy to tell from the way one writes and connects.
    .-= Cindi @ Moomette’s Magnificents´s last blog ..American Heroes #3 Children’s Music CD Review & Giveaway =-.

  9. You reached out to me in much the same way my friend. Getting to know you and the challenges that you have overcome inspired me to take a much different road than I had intended.

    Your caring insight and advice have always been genuine.I am honored to be your friend.

  10. It was so great to connect with you at Disney and I also felt the same way about Chris Brogan… I was so amazed that he remembered me when I started following him on Twitter.
    You are definitely a genuine person and such a lovely one at that.
    Cannot wait to get together with you again!
    .-= Lorie Shewbridge´s last blog ..Sunday Stealing: The Clown’s Meme Parts 1 & 2 =-.

  11. When you engage with people, you often find people ready to engage with you, even people you don’t know. Your mindset changes, and you become a different person. I’m glad it’s all worked out for you, and look at all the fun you started having just from blogging. 🙂
    .-= Mitch´s last blog ..Are You Missing The “Social” Part Of Social Media? =-.


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