I’m a wife and mom of two daughters. My daughters are 12 years apart so that keeps me quite busy and a little crazy at times. My life is a jumble of mixed up mishaps, but it’s always centered around my family.
Surgery Canceled
December 4th, 2009 by Connie RobertsMy mother’s surgery was canceled – by her! Her doctor usually does procedures and surgeries in a hospital that is a short distance from our home. For her out patient surgery it was fine, but since she was going to be hospitalized overnight for this surgery he said he would do her operation at the hospital closer to home.
We were told to come in to the out patient surgery center at noon. Of course she couldn’t eat from midnight last night. We arrived and it took a while to get her ready, especially get her IV in. She was finally settled in when a nurse came in and said that the doctor was running late but that they’d keep us informed.
My Mom was very anxious so she was prescribed some medication to calm her down. Once she was given that, she was fine. About 3 hours later, she was getting upset and wanted to know where the doctor was. I went to ask the nurse and also ask if she could get more of that medication. Instead the nurse came in and said that the doctor was still in surgery and wouldn’t arrive until about 6 PM. My Mom said she wanted to leave because she couldn’t handle waiting that long. I asked again about the medicine, but the nurse told my mother that she had every right to be upset and that waiting this long was difficult.
No matter that it took this long to get her scheduled for this surgery because of being sick and hospitalized. No matter that my mother wants to put off this surgery and her anxiety is getting worse every day. No matter that my husband was home today and tomorrow so I didn’t have to worry about someone to take care of my daughter. No matter that the doctor wants her to have this surgery ASAP.
I lost it today. I cried my eyes out from the stress of this. I don’t want to be selfish, but I’m torn between taking care of my mother, my husband and daughter and myself. I’ve canceled doctors’ appointments for myself for the past two months. I just needed to vent a bit.
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December 4th, 2009 at 1:00 am
Mom’s are stubborn like that sometimes. I have a similar problem with mine. :\
It’s OK to cry Connie. Warm hugs from halfway around the world!
December 4th, 2009 at 1:21 am
I know what your mom is going through with the Anxiety is sucks. My doctor told me it was all in my head. Ugh. I have to have dental work done in a few months they better knock me out.
December 4th, 2009 at 2:06 am
Nothing wrong with venting a little bit now and then. You have every right to be frustrated right now too. Don’t forget to take care of yourself, we tend to do that when we’re in mothering mode.
December 4th, 2009 at 9:01 am
Oh Connie, I’m sorry to hear this. Doctor’s schedules suck, don’t they? I hope you’re able to reschedule it soon. Can she try to get the first appointment in the morning?
December 4th, 2009 at 4:42 pm
Vent, vent and vent some more. We are all here for you. I know what your going though my mom was just as stubborn when she was in the hospital 2 years ago. It drove me crazy!
December 4th, 2009 at 4:49 pm
I am sorry to hear about your troubles! Being a caregiver is very exhausting. When I was taking care of my mom at the end or her battle with breast cancer, I remember feeling so torn between taking care of my two young children and being there for her. Be sure to take time for you, too. Easier said than done, I know.
December 4th, 2009 at 8:37 pm
Oh, Connie. I think about you every day. No matter what happens or what your mom decides, you have to make sure you take care of yourself. Your family needs YOU in top top shape so that you can support each other.
December 4th, 2009 at 8:39 pm
I’m sorry you are having such a rough time Connie. I hope the doctor has a REALLY good excuse for all of this – that is unacceptable to have to wait for so long. Hang in there – sending lots of positive thoughts your way!
December 5th, 2009 at 11:50 pm
My mom had never been hospitalized [except for the birth of her 2 kids] until this past April. I drove down to FL and spent 2 weeks with her and my step dad. She was a wreck and needed her ‘happy pills’ just to make it through. I can understand your frustration and hope the doctor can make everything right once again. Better to vent here than at your family, right? =)