People are often shocked when they see me with my two daughters. Most of the time it’s assumed that I’m the grandmother of my 9 year old (gasp!) and that my 21 year old is her mom. That’s been happening since Peanut was born.

I can remember quite distinctly the first time it happened and I couldn’t believe that people thought I looked old enough to be a grandmother. I have to add that I was still going through a slight case of postpartum depression so I cried at the drop of a hat. Later on I realized that what was really happening is that people were assuming that my then 12 year old daughter had a baby. What was worse?

I can tell you that the second assumption turned out to be much worse. There were rude remarks made to my older daughter when we were all together, when she took Peanut out for walks in the stroller, when I walked away from our shopping cart in the store, etc. How can people be so awful? What Would these same “moral police” say if she were pregnant and went to get an abortion?

Rumors started and they hit Lady Ali hard. They were ridiculous because I was very noticeably pregnant but rumor mongers don’t use logic. My dear sweet daughter learned who her friends were in a hurry.

There’s a good side to all of this of course. My two daughters, who are 12 years apart in age and about 1000 miles apart in distance are very close and loving sisters. I know that no matter what that they’ll be there for each other.

Hubby and I laugh about how we have one going into graduate school and one going into 4th grade, one engaged and one who thinks boys are yucky, one who’s used natural acne treatment and one who uses natural vitamins and one who is driving and one is who is learning to use a skateboard.

I’ve had the joys of raising one and seeing her mature. I now have the joys of going through it all over again. Check with me in a few years when Peanut’s a teenager and I’ll tell you how it’s going.

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